Most mothers-in-law are known for being controlling, judgmental, critical, and overbearing, and like any toxic person, a toxic mother-in-law is like a parasite that feeds on your misery. The worst thing that could happen to any man or woman is having a mother-in-law who despises him/her for no just cause.
Mothers-in-law are supposed to be understanding and not bitter with their child’s spouse. Ladies and gentlemen, if you have toxic mothers-in-law, and you have no idea how to handle or deal with them, have no worry because we are going to be giving you 10 different tips on how to deal with toxic mothers-in-law.
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Decide where to draw up boundaries, although she is the mother of your spouse you still have the right to enforce the rules in your home. You have the right to tell her when she can come to visit, you can’t always sit and let her dictate your life.
Don’t pick fights, but stand up for yourself
While setting boundaries, it is important you don’t pick fights with her rather be diplomatic about it. If she is doing something you don’t like stand up for yourself and let her know how you feel about it and that you are not okay with it.
Avoid anything that will lead to unnecessary conflict
Give way for anything that would lead to a conflict or disagreement with her. Don’t let her bait you into an emotional reaction. Instead of adding fuel to her fire, practice conflict management.
Ask help from your partner
If things are becoming unbearable for you, ask for help from your partner. Remember she is your partner’s mother so if your partner gets involved it might lessen the situation.
Insist on some physical distance
You cannot move out of your own house obviously, but you also don’t need to be everywhere she is or attend every little event she throws. Let your spouse continue their relationship with their mother, but you don’t have to be involved all the time.
Don’t let her toxicity poison you
Don’t let her toxicity poison you. Dwelling on all the negative things your mother-in-law says and does is no way to live your life. At some point, her actions and feelings should fade into the background so you can focus on yourself instead.
Learn to detach
Remember that strong emotions make bad situations worse, instead of getting your feelings hurt, remember that her attitude has little to do with you. If the conflict is impossible to avoid, go ahead and respond honestly. Don’t be rude, but be clear and neutral about your feelings.
Know for a fact that she is not going to change
Don’t endlessly try to make things better, or solve the problems, and try to improve yourself thinking if you do better she would change because she won’t unless she is touched by God probably. At some point, you have to admit that this is the way things are and move on.
Don’t take anything she does or say personally
If you’re eventually able to realize that she is this way with more people than just you, it may soften the blow. If you can do not take it personally and go about your business, maybe it will stop.
You do you, get away from here as fast as you can. Do your own thing if that’s the only way you can cope with having her around and don’t mind that she is there.
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