Sex is an integral part of every relationship and also an awkward topic in my relationship as many struggles to have a full conversation with their partner without giving up. Many also share that talking about it heightens tension in their relationship so it is best avoided.
Sexual health is one major area you need to discuss with your partner the moment you both decide to cross this level of intimacy in your relationship. Sex exposes both parties to several things and it is important to protect each other in every form and way. Here are some tips on how to make your sex talk as helpful, productive.
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Timing is one of the most important steps in discussing sexual health as many struggles with never finding the perfect time to talk about this area of their relationship. For many, there is never a right time for the topic so it is left unsaid. Make time away from the bedroom, at a time when neither of you is rushed.
- Be clear
This is not a time to mince words or play around with how you feel. This is a great time to speak in simple, clear, and concise terms ensuring that you both communicate clearly speaking in proper terms. Let your best communications skill come out to play at this time.
- Consider both parties always
While having this talk with your partner ensure you use “We” showing that you are both involved in this conversation and whatever you are both talking about covers and bears the interest of both parties.
- Listen and ask questions
One of the biggest problems in communication is not that people don’t know how to talk, but they don’t know how to listen. In communication ensure that you listen to fully understand what your partner is saying, wants, and your role in the conversation.
- Get adequate knowledge on the topic
It is important for you to be fully informed on whatever topic you have chosen to discuss with your, partner. Gather required facts, necessary materials on the topic and share with them so they fully follow and understand.
- Be prepared that they might get upset
There is a possibility your partner might get upset during the conversation so prepare your mind for this while also preparing to address and manage what might have upset them during the conversation.
- Have resources readyEmotions may be running high, so your partner might not hear or process everything you share. Have tools ready that’ll answer their questions. This way they can process things on their own time. These should include a link to a credible organization like the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)Trusted Source or the American Sexual Health Association (ASHA), and a link to any resource you found particularly helpful when learning.
- Pick the right place and time
The right place to discuss the topic is wherever you feel safest and most comfortable. It should be someplace private enough that you can talk without worrying about other people interrupting. As for timing, this isn’t a conversation you should have when you’re drunk that means clothes on and totally sober.
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