Seeing members of your family fight can be really tough. Whether you are involved or not, you might be feeling sad, angry, or even ashamed when your loved ones yell and scream at each other.
Here are a few tips to have a calm discussion with your family and end any family fight:
1. Keep your cool
If you feel like you might yell or explode instead of talking calmly, take a walk around the house to calm down first. No matter who you’re talking to, doing it in a calm manner will go much better than yelling or screaming.
2. Call a family meeting
It will be much easier to talk to everyone at the same time. See if there’s a good time and day that works for everyone in your family to get together. Then, you can all meet up and talk about your issues.
3. Listen to everyone
Give everyone in the family a chance to speak. That way, everyone feels like they get a say in what’s going on. Don’t interrupt, even if it seems like someone is lying or being dramatic—when it’s your turn to talk, you can bring up the stuff that’s bothering you.
4. Maintain neutral body language
Rolling your eyes and sighing says a lot about what you think. As you listen to other people talk, try to keep your face neutral and don’t let your emotions show. When you talk, keep your tone of voice light and try not to yell or lash out in anger.
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5. Communicate your needs
Express what’s going on with you so your family knows how to move forward. If anyone tries to interrupt, calmly remind them that you let them talk, so they need to do the same for you.
6. Use the “I” word
Center the problems around how you’re feeling. Instead of blaming your family members or calling them out, try to use “I” statements as much as possible. This can help people feel less defensive and more able to work through issues with you.
7. Try not to take sides
If you’re not directly involved in the fight, keep your position neutral. Picking sides between parents, siblings, or extended family members will only make the problem worse. Listen to what everyone has to say, and try to offer unbiased advice.
8. Come up with a resolution
Try to come up with something that everyone in the family is okay with. If you can’t come up with a perfect solution, pick something that everyone can compromise on, even if it’s a little bit inconvenient.
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