You can pick your friends and your spouse, but you can’t pick the family who comes along. It is important to show effort to your partner family because at the end of the day, your actions is what will create a bond with his family.
Below is 10 ways to win over his family before marriage.
Buy a gift: You don’t want to go empty-handed when you see his family. Gift tend to show that your care deeply about them. So take some time out from your schedule, and go gift shopping with your boyfriend. Buy them something they would use or need.
Refrain from PDA: Sit next to your guy, but avoid being PDA in front of them. There is a time and place for everything so don’t flash it in their face.
Shared interest: If you have shared interests, find the opportunity to pursue them together. If you and his parents love cooking make sure you offer to cook with them. This will give you an opportunity to work together and grow closer.
Help Them to Learn Something New: If his family are struggling with learning something, for example not knowing how a smart phone works. You can show them and they will appreciate your understanding and sensitivity.
Be there during tough times: When your partner family are going through a tough time, don’t hesitate to show your concern and eager to help them.
This will show his family your willing to make the effort to see them through their difficulties and you will not been seen as a outsider.
Show an Interest in Them as Individuals: Try and get to know them as individuals. Understand their likes and dislikes and be sensitive to their personality types. If they’re an introvert makes sure you give them space.
Spend time: Spend time with his family alone. Invite them to events and make sure you tag along to any events that they have planned.
Listen to Them: You should listen to them carefully and make sure you try keep your biases, assumptions and insecurities not into the conversation. Just listen to them and open yourself up to what they have to say.
Respect their traditions: Show interest in their tradition and take time learning about it. Showing flexibility and an ability to accommodate old and new traditions can lead to a stronger family.
Ask Questions: Make sure to share some sweet and embarrassing memories about your partner to his family. You can ask them questions about their upbringing and any family memories they have to share.
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