It is important to discipline a child so that he can grow up to become a responsible fellow.
However, discipline methods should not be seen as punishment only, but as ways of correcting a child and making a child better.
Here are simple discipline methods that are normal for child upbringing:
- Praise your child for good behaviour
Shaping your child’s good behaviour should be your first line of defense against bad behaviour. If you see your child helping their sibling or cleaning up their toys, then encourage such with praise.
For example, if your child keeps trying to open the kitchen cupboard door, then you could redirect them to a favorite toy.
Do not give in to whining or complaints. If you let your child do whatever they want, they will learn that whining will allow them to get their way, and they will use it to their advantage in the future.For instance, if your child says repeatedly, “I want to play outside,” but it is time for dinner, you need to insist that they can only play outside when you allow it.
Sometimes, as a parent, you perceive their child’s innocent offense as deliberately intended to irritate or cause mischief. In fact, many children only learn how to explore the world around them through misbehavior.
- When your child does act inappropriately, make it clear that you do not want such behaviour to be repeated. Offer a substitute activity, such as drawing on a piece of paper or in a colouring book instead of drawing on the walls. You could also get your child to help you clean the mess up. You do not, however, need to yell at or punish your child for doing something that they did not know was wrong.
8. Express empathy and love
Let your child know that you care for them by saying something like, “I know you want to walk downstairs, but it is not safe for you to go there yet.”
- Understanding that most of the trouble your young child gets into is the result of them being naturally curious, not bad or willfully misbehaving. Understanding your child’s mental development will help you see the world from your child’s eyes a bit more, and inspire you to treat your child with greater empathy.
- Don’t be afraid to say “no.” You’re the parent and must govern your child’s behaviour.
9. Create a distraction for your child
By creating a distraction for your child, you can redirect their energy in a positive way. Think about the situation that you and your child are in and look for creative alternatives that your child could engage in.
For young children, especially, ensure that you take away privileges as soon as you notice the undesirable behaviour. This creates an association in the child’s mind between the behaviour and the loss of the privilege.