When children who are very active and open, find it difficult to relate well with you, then there is a problem that needs to be fixed.
Children are naturally open-minded and outspoken. They love saying what’s on their mind to anyone who cares to listen. As a parent, you should be the first person your kid would want to talk to at all times. How you relate with your children will determine if they will be willing to open up to you.
However, there are ways you can relate with your kids to keep them closer to you. Below are some of them:
1. Play with them
Playing with your children helps you develop a special bond with them.
As a parent, the best toy you can give your little ones is to get down on the floor and play with them. Allow them select their choice of activity and you don’t have to worry about rule – just go with the flow and have fun.
2. Be nice to your children
Go down a little and physically go to your child’s level so you can look them in their eyes while kneeling or place them on your laps. It’s more like you immersing yourself in their little world.
3. Give appropriate praise
Children deserve positive feedback when they do something supportive or good. Cheer them on with phrases like “well done” or give them a high-five. This will get them excited and give them a sense of accomplishment.
More so, it’s also a great way to reinforce good behaviour, so your child is more likely to keep up with the good character.
4. Learn to compromise
Learn to compromise with your them like embracing their choice of hobbies or discuss what hobby you could both enjoy and have fun together.
5. Spend Time Together
Spend time together with your child and make a habit of doing things together.
Those moments you spend together are an opportunity to connect with what’s happening in each of your daily lives.
6. Move on
Remember that children are usually quick to forgive when you tell them; “I’m sorry”, so should you emulate them.
Nevertheless, try not to stress your point with long talks or explanations in the hope of winning your child to your ways of thinking – or relieving your own hurts.
7. Talk it out
Instead of nagging or yelling, talk to your children. They want and deserve explanations as much as adults do.
Reason with them and allow them to understand and learn in a non-judgmental way.
Also, be open to your child’s suggestions as well. If there is a problem, express your feelings and invite your child to work on a solution with you.
8. Say No
Your child knows when you feel resentful. Listen when they say no too because when their opinions are respected, they learn to stand up for what you and they believe in.
Above all, remember that the relationship you forge with your child will remain one of the most important bonds you’ll ever establish.
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