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If you haven’t had sex before and you don’t know what to expect, that’s okay! It might be a little awkward, silly, or even downright funny at times. Keep an open mind, and try not to set the bar too high for yourself or your partner.
As you and your partner get to know each other more and figure out what you both like, sex will feel more natural and authentic.
If you’re still on the fence about intimacy, get some more insight
He might be going through the same struggles you are, and it can be helpful to talk to them about what you’re thinking.
Do some shavings If you’d like to do some grooming on your genitals, try to do it the day before to avoid any irritation during sex. You can also shave your legs and your armpits, but again, only if you want to.
Take a shower, brush your teeth, and put on deodorant You want to look (and smell) good during sex, so take some time to clean up before you meet with him.
Keep in mind that if you have a vagina, you don’t need to wash it out with soap. You can lightly scrub your vulva with your hands and some water, but using soap or harsh cleansers can disrupt your pH balance and lead to irritation.
The last thing you want is to be distracted by a full bladder
When the moment strikes, take a pause and head to the bathroom really quickly just to go pee. You can use the time to freshen up and make sure you’re both looking and smelling good, too.
Put on lingerie or take a luxurious bath
Do something that makes you feel cool and confident to boost your self-image before you have sex. Something that makes you feel more attractive will put you in the right headspace, and you’ll probably feel more ready to get intimate with him afterward.
You could also listen to a sensual song, do makeup, or get all dressed up in a new outfit.
Dim the lights and turn on some sensual music If you really want to get into it, try lighting a few candles, too. The more sexy the environment looks and feels, the better headspace you’ll be in when it comes time to do the deed.
Communication before, during, and after sex is very important Start out by telling him what you’re comfortable with, even if it’s not a lot. After you start getting physical, tell them what feels good and what doesn’t. If you can provide some direction, you can ensure that you both have a good time during intimacy.
Make sure you’re listening to your partner as well. They might tell you what they like and how they like it as you two get intimate.
