A happy romantic relationship needs more than love. It needs a healthy dose of sexual intimacy too.
Love could help you both live together comfortably in each other’s company. But if you want your relationship to feel exciting, passionate, and memorable every single day, then you need to focus on sexual intimacy, just as much as you indulge in romantic gestures.
Some people start off on a whirlwind romance where they can’t keep their hands off each other during the first few months or years, but eventually end up in a relationship where they touch each other only to nudge their partner in bed or to get their partner’s attention.
And that perfect start to a happy romance turns into a relationship where there’s no sexual intimacy or excitement after a few years.
This kind of problem starts in unnoticeably small ways, until it gets to the point where one or both of you just don’t feel alive in the relationship anymore, and desperately seek out ways to experience more excitement in your lives.
Below are some common sexual problems in a relationship and how to avoid them:
1. Mismatched sex drive
A man may experience the peak of arousal within ten minutes if he wants to. But a lady generally takes a lot longer to experience a sexual orgasm. If the sexual drives of both partners don’t match or if one partner is always left unsatisfied by the experience, it’s only a matter of time before sex starts to feel like a burden.
In such case, indulge in longer foreplay that excites both lovers, and communicate with each other. It’s the easiest way to avoid this kind of a sexual problem in the relationship.
2. Monotony
If you are doing the same missionary in the same corner of the bed every single time, things can start to get pretty boring after a few years. Experiment with each other, try out new things all the time to make sex feel exciting and refreshing.
3. Sexual anxiety
Sometimes, it’s easier to completely ignore sexual intimacy instead of dealing with the stress of confronting the issue.
Confronting the issue could make you want to squirm, but once both of you learn to deal with it, both of you will come out closer and more in love with each other.
4. Lethargy and laziness
You may have a tiring lifestyle, but if you are making excuses to avoid sex, you are only going to drift away from your partner instead of getting closer.
5. Physical attractiveness
If you and your partner are slipping into bed naked every day, it becomes easy to overlook the sexy stuff over time. Innovate, dress up for each other, and go crazy with wigs or different props to create a unique experience every now and then.
6. Withholding sex
It is not good to use sex as a tool to get even after an argument. You may not feel like making out after a fight, but don’t use sex to force your partner to feel guilty and beg you for forgiveness.
7. Stress and depression
Stress and depression reduces the level of testosterone in your body. Firstly, you may not feel like having sex when that happens. Secondly, your body doesn’t want you to have sex! The more stressed or depressed you are, the more you’d want to avoid sex because you won’t enjoy it anyway.
Try to relax, have fun and make each day a memorable one. Life can be painful at times, but you can still lead a happy and eventful life.
8. Distractions in bed
If you turn on a television in your bedroom or surround yourself with gadgets, it will inevitably cause a distraction, even if both of you don’t realize it. When you get into bed with each other, avoid bringing any gadgets to bed, and your relationship will improve in no time.
9. Trust issues
Trust plays a very important role in eliminating sexual problems in a relationship. When you and your partner trust each other completely, it will help you both open up about each other’s sexual desires without the fear of being judged.
Once both of you talk about the dirty things that turn either of you on, you’ll see your bedroom stories go from boring to sexually blazing overnight.
Read also: 10 Sexiest Foreplay Tips To Live Out Your Wildest Fantasies And Enjoy A Romantic Union!
10. The children
If both of you have become new parents, it may take a huge toll on your sex life. The arrival of babies almost always crushes sexual intimacy in a marriage because there are so many other things to look into and worry about. But do not let the lack of sex turn into a routine that stretches for months on end.
Always find a way to make time, even if that means sneaking out for a few hours. If the lack of sex turns into a routine, both of you may end up feeling too awkward and uncomfortable to change anything.
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