You’re smitten, girl.
Love: it’s something that we all crave. We are wired to not just want it but to need it for survival. The English language only has one word assigned to convey multiple meanings of love. We use “I love you” with family, friends, and with the person, we are in a relationship with.
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It’s easy to define love when it comes to your family. The bond created by blood is intense and can never be broken. While sometimes you may not like your family and they may get on your nerves, you will always love them. It is, in most cases, unconditional.
It’s also easy to define the love you have for your friends. This is a love that you choose to give. It is when you are so close with your friends you view them as if they are part of your family. You have an emotional connection with that person and you never see them not being part of your life.
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But what does it mean when you tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that you love them? And more specifically, what does it mean to be in love and how do you know you’re in love? Clearly, there is a difference in the definition of love between the two as we have all heard people say that they love someone but aren’t in love with them.
When we tell our boyfriends that we love them, it means that not only do we love him but we’re also in love with him. Here’s what love is and what it means when we tell our partner we love him.
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He’s consistently present in your thoughts.
No matter what you’re doing, he is always in the back of your mind. He is the first thing you think about when you wake up in the morning and the last thing you think about before you fall asleep at night. When something funny happens, he is the first person you want to tell.
You don’t sleep as well if you’re not in the same bed as him.
The comfort of falling asleep next to him brings a calm and security that you don’t get on your own. And when you don’t fall asleep next to him or wake up next to him, you don’t sleep as well.
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You can’t picture your life without him.
This is a big one. While this is also part of the definition of friendship love, it is a bit different when it comes to a boyfriend. If you can’t see yourself walking down the aisle, raising kids, and growing old with a guy, then you’re not in love with him. But if you look at your life and feel like it would be incomplete without him, you’re most definitely in love.
He’s the first person you want to call if you need help or support.
If you’re having a bad day, the one place you want to be is in his arms. Or if you can’t figure out how to fix the leaky faucet on your own, you call him before you call the plumber. You want his support and help before you seek out someone else.
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You value his happiness more than your own.
If he isn’t happy, then you can’t be happy. When you’re willing to make huge sacrifices in your life in order to make him happy, then you’re in love.
You want an emotional AND physical connection.
Not only do you want to be able to talk to your boyfriend as you would with a close friend, but you also want the physical closeness you don’t have with family and friends. Without passion, you can’t be in love with someone.
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Home is where he is.
They say “Home is where the heart is.” You totally agree with this. When you’re in love, you could be anywhere in the world and as long as he is physically there with me, you feel like you’re home.
You love his flaws just as much as you love his positive traits.
When you can look at him and know that you love all the bad things about him (i.e., the fact that he doesn’t put the lid back on the toothpaste or the fact that he sometimes lacks faith in his ability to succeed) just as much as you love the good things about him, then you know you love him.
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You want to be his support system.
When he needs someone to lean on, you want to be there for him, even when you’re completely spent. When your desire to support him when things get tough never falters even when you’re having a rough time with things yourself and you feel like you have nothing more to give, you’re in love.
This definition of love is not all-inclusive. We’ve noticed that everyone tends to have their own definition for what being in love is based on the feelings they have for their boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife. And their definition can change from partner to partner.
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